It’s time for parents to abandon the old adage that kids “deserve a good spanking” every once in a while.
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The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) issued a strong statement in 2018, advising parents not to spank their children, based on a growing pile of studies showing that the disciplinary technique does more harm than good.
“The new AAP statement includes data that show that kids who were spanked in their early years were more likely to be more defiant, show more aggressive behavior later in preschool and school and have increased risk for mental health disorders and lower self-esteem,” says pediatrician Karen Estrella, MD.
Research over the last 20 years has demonstrated that spanking increases aggressionin young children and is ineffective in changing their undesirable behavior, the AAP says. Studies have also linked spanking to an increased risk of mental health disorders and impaired brain development.
The AAP is an influential professional association that represents some 67,000 pediatricians across the country. But this evolution in thinking about parental discipline isn’t just limited to medical professionals — fewer parents raising children today seem to support spanking. In a 2013 poll, about half of parents under the age of 36 reported having spanked their own children. Among all of the older generations, that number was 70% or higher.
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Why spanking to discipline doesn’t work
While spanking may create a sense of fear in your child in the moment, it won’t improve behavior over the long term. In fact, regular spanking normalizes the act of hitting and can lead to aggressive behavior that encourages continued conflict between you and your child.
“Children view their parents as role models,” Dr. Estrella says. “Aggressive behavior will only generate more negative behaviors in a child.”
In its statement, the AAP also condemned verbal abuse, explaining that yelling in a way that insults, humiliates or shames a child also has negative effects on brain development.
“Research shows that kids exposed to toxic stress have changes in their cognitive capacities later on,” Dr. Estrella says.
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Discipline strategies to use instead of spanking
Try these three steps to effectively discipline your child:
- Establish a positive and supportive parent-child relationship that gives your child a reason to demonstrate good behavior.
- Use positive reinforcement to encourage your child to behave.
- If necessary, use other disciplinary methods such as time outs or taking away your child’s favorite privileges for a period of time.
Dr. Estrella builds on those and other recommendations from the AAP with these additional tips:
- Be a role model. Make it a priority to remain calm, with the understanding that your child looks to you to be an example of how to behave.
- Set rules and limits that can be enforced consistently among all caretakers. There should be no good guy/bad guy for your child with multiple caretakers. Make sure that rules are verbalized using age-appropriate language.
- Constantly praise and celebrate good behaviors. Give attention to behaviors that you want your child to repeat. Show that you are observant and proud when they behave well.
- Similarly, know when not to respond. “Ignoring a bad behavior, for example if a child throws himself to the floor because he wasn’t allowed to play on the iPad, is a good way to make that behavior decrease with time,” Dr. Estrella says. “In this case, the child will learn that throwing a tantrum will not get him the iPad.”
- Learn from past experience. What triggers your child’s misbehavior? If you can identify a trigger, are there ways to avoid it, or at least better prepare for it? Make sure your child knows what the consequences will be if they don’t comply with your requests or misbehaves in a certain situation.
- Redirect bad behavior. Turn “don’t do that” into an action that your child can do. If your child takes a toy from a playmate, for example, offer your child another toy or activity until it’s their turn. Use the same mindset for winning/losing situations.
- Call a time out when a rule is broken. Remove your child from that situation for a pre-set amount of time, which can be one minute per year of age. Explain in a short phrase why you are doing it. Once your child gets older, let them lead the time out by saying, “Go to time out and come back when you are calm and ready.” This can teach your child to understand their emotions, actions and consequences, Dr. Estrella explains.
“Talk with your pediatrician if those behaviors are common at your kid’s age about what strategies to use,” she adds. “If needed, a pediatric psychologist, as well as community resources can provide parenting classes for additional guidance or support.”
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The article addresses the shift in parenting attitudes towards spanking and emphasizes the American Academy of Pediatrics' (AAP) strong statement against the practice. As someone well-versed in this area, I can corroborate the AAP's position based on extensive studies demonstrating the negative effects of spanking on children.
Research spanning the last two decades highlights that spanking not only increases aggression in young children but is also ineffective in changing their undesirable behavior. The article mentions that children who were spanked in their early years were more likely to exhibit defiance, aggression, and an increased risk of mental health disorders later in life. This aligns with the growing body of evidence suggesting that physical punishment can have detrimental long-term consequences.
Furthermore, the article argues that while spanking might create a momentary sense of fear in a child, it fails to improve behavior over the long term. The normalization of hitting through regular spanking can lead to aggressive behavior, fostering continued conflict between parents and children. The AAP also condemns verbal abuse, highlighting the negative effects of yelling that insults, humiliates, or shames a child, which can impact brain development.
In light of these findings, the article recommends alternative discipline strategies that parents can employ. These include establishing positive and supportive parent-child relationships, using positive reinforcement, and resorting to other disciplinary methods such as time-outs or temporarily taking away privileges.
As a seasoned expert in child development and parenting, I endorse these alternatives and offer additional tips, such as being a positive role model, setting consistent rules, praising good behavior, and learning from past experiences to identify triggers and avoid them. Additionally, redirecting bad behavior, calling a time-out, and seeking guidance from pediatricians or community resources are essential components of effective discipline.
In summary, the article aligns with contemporary knowledge in child development, emphasizing the importance of positive discipline strategies over physical punishment for fostering healthy parent-child relationships and promoting positive behavior in children.
